I have been thinking a lot about what to tell my family and friends and coworkers and when. I haven’t wanted to tell anyone that we are TTC because I don’t want to feel any outside pressure to get pregnant which of course would cause more anxiety and stress and ultimately affect our ability to conceive. I’ve also been telling everyone for a long time that we weren’t ready yet and we wanted to spend some more time as just a married couple before having kids, etc. My coworkers have been teasing me for the past month saying that I’ve got a little one coming and nicknaming him Stevie (I had a baby present on my desk for one of Jon’s employees whose wife just had a baby about a week ago).
Obviously I don’t want to say anything to anyone at work until I am far enough along that the big risks of miscarriage are gone because that’s not something that I want to share with people who I only talk to at work. I think that I feel similarly about telling most of my friends and extended family members. I think that it would be fun to be happy and excited on my own (and Jon of course) for a little while before letting everyone know. I have a feeling that I am going to be too excited and anxious that I will want to tell someone though. Heck, I already am that excited and I haven’t even had a chance to “try” yet. But somehow I feel the need to tell a handful of people just so I can talk about it. (this is probably why I have to write in this thing like 3 times a day!)
I think that it would be so cool to conceive this month. Then I would find out just before we go down to Blanding to visit Jon’s family for Thanksgiving and we would be able to have the first ultrasound a week or so before Christmas. I read a story about how a woman told her family that she was pregnant by getting several copies of her ultrasound picture and framed them with the due date written on it, then wrapped them and gave them out a Christmas presents. I think that would be sooo cute and a much less stressful way to tell my family (and all at once so they don’t have their feelings hurt by not knowing before someone else). Brooke of course will be the first person to know though because I just can’t keep anything from ya! J (But you will of course be sworn to secrecy!)
Anywho, I know that I am getting way ahead of myself and I’m going to be disappointed if things don’t work out that way, but I’m sure that I’ll have a new idea and a new plan if the stars don’t align this month. I’m hoping that positive thinking and a little bit of thoughtful planning will make things work out the way I want them to.
On a side note… I took an astrological quiz that looks at the sign of the mother-to-be and father-to-be and tells you what months would be best to conceive for a blissful baby. It said that for Jon and I, we would be best with either a Scorpio or Leo baby which would mean that we would want to conceive between Jan 25th and Feb 15th for a Scorpio or October 25th and November 15th for a Leo. Coincidence that a Leo would result from a + on our first cycle? I’d like to think fate. But that might also mean we have to wait until the new year. Either way I’ll be quite happy!
I am plannng on sending out a mass text,...how many people do you think i will piss off? but think about it, you will tell you closest family and friends as soon as you know (which is like what 7 or 8 people?) and the rest of the world when your in the clear. if i tell just my siblings and parents and closest friends thats up ward of 40 people!!! i actually have been dreading this part. hopefully i will be preggo by christmas and i can just announce it at each family party.
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